Opposite gendered avatar

Making my avatar into a boy has been very frustrating. I was having the worst trouble making his face not look girly! Finally I enlisted the help of my boyfriend in creating my character, and we tried to make the avatar as similar to my boyfriend as possible-- to varying success. Some aspects captured his essence - like the general body shape (although SL really makes some body parts weird when manipulated) as well as his goatee and glasses. Hair was a huge problem - his real hair is a dark, dirty blonde.. one not very easy to find in SL. Even his hair style was difficult to find even though to me, in real life, it just seems a regular, simple hair style. In the end we settled for brown hair in the closest resembling style we could find. I did find a pretty cool, very typical of my boyfriend, outfit though. Here's a picture of him leaning up against a bar:
You can't really see, but those are imitation Birkenstocks on his feet like those he always wears. In this picture though, his feet are kind of sinking into the ground...